Many of us recognize these things as a part of our personal self-soothing behaviors. So what is wrong with indulging now and then? The big question and answer is: What are you fixing by this behavior? NOTHING. In fact these behaviors cause health problems, financial problems, relationship problems, more pain and disappointment.
It’s time to look at the pain. You can’t do it alone. As a sexual abuse survivor I needed help. I was able to see a therapist who does understand my issues and knows me. I also attend a Christian 12 step group that is general in nature. I have people who support me and who will listen to me when I need to talk. These people are helping me to work through the issues of the past, the problems they cause me now, and encourage me to be stronger and stronger. Certainly for me Jesus Christ and His healing power has been at the very core of all my healing.